Surviving Divorce and trying to Forget someone you love . Is It Easy?
In Our Last Quran Class , Our Teacher paused at Ayah 130 of Surah Nisa and asked us to Reflect . Break Ups and Divorces are becoming Very Common these days .
There is a Hadeeth that Jabir reported that Allah’s Messenger SAW said:
“Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension) ; the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” The Satan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” A’mash said: He then embraces him.” [Sahih Muslim]
So to Iblis (Satan/Shaytan/the accursed devil) there is an ultimate goal considered most beloved and pleasing to him. This is: breaking up between a husband and wife and creating disagreements between them.
Divorces are happening and it is happening at a greater scale there days . Because of break-ups the youth is plunging itself into depression and falling into all sorts of Wrongful acts .They are literally destroy themselves by looking for consolation at all the wrong places .
Today,I would like to share some comforting verses of Quran that can provide Solace to the broken hearts .If you are disturbed for any reason, do read and reflect on these Ayahs-
The above ayah is an Ayah of Quran from Surah Nisa (Verse -130 ).Sometimes ,Divorces are Unavoidable . In This Ayah Allah gives us a Glad tiding to the Believers that if Divorce happens due to some reasons , Allah is generous ,Allah is all Embracing. He is all Wise . He will help and will help you cope up with your Break up .
Allah Swt also says in Quran :
“As for the one who is conscious of Allah,
He prepares for him a way out. And He provides for him from sources that he could never imagine.” (Quran 65:2-3)
Have Faith ,Move on, work on pleasing Allah, and you will have no regrets.
Allah Says in Quran,
Pure women are for the pure men, and pure men are for the pure women.’” (Quran 24:26)
Scholars say that If you need a good Spouse ,Increase yourself in good action .Follow up with something good. Give charity. Pray at night while others are sleeping. Feed the hungry. Fast some extra days. Just be thankful that Allah saved you from something that could have gotten worse. He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful.
And Finally Do not Fall into Haram . The World is Very tempting .It is full of all sorts of WRONG Role Models . Remind Yourself the above Ayah of Quran and Rely all your Hopes Only on Allah swt .
Do Not Lose Hope and think of Marrying Again.
Allah says in Quran that Whoever can Afford to Marry should Marry .If You are not able to find a Suitable Partner,Have hopes in Allah and seek help with Sabr, Salah and Fast.
(O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and protecting the private parts. Whoever cannot do that, then let him fast, for it is a protection for him.) This was recorded in the Two Sahihs from the Hadith of Ibn Mas`ud.
اللَّهُمَّ أَعِنِّي عَلَى ذِكْرِكَ، وَشُكْرِكَ، وَحُسْنِ عِبَادَتِكَ
“Allâhumma a’innî alâ dhikrika, wa shukrika, wa husni ‘ibâdatika
O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner”
[Abu Dawud] [Book 16, Hadith 1422]
Source: Riyad as-Salihin » The Book of the Remembrance of Allah