Am I beautiful or am I not ?
Am I beautiful is One question that Probably everyone of Us have asked Our self .Beauty is One standard that breaks apart People of all ages.The girls in their teens bury themselves in their pillow feeling low about their single teen pimple .The Married Sisters waste all their time and energy erasing their tiny faint Stretch marks off their body and doing everything they possibly can to lose their mummy tummy and when 40s arrive they feel saddened at their new emerging wrinkles and Sagging Skin .They force themselves under the Knife to improve their Physical appearance.Well, this is not over yet,the Same is with the brothers .Most men too dream of 6 pack body and try to frame themself into a” Macho Man”.One Question that has always bothered me is” Who defines beauty?”
Who defines beauty?
Beauty is Something we endlessly strive for.Because beauty and appearance has become commodified and traded, it has been weakened and abused.It is often distorted, misunderstood and shadowed by a wide amount of conflicting pressures. Beauty has become the thing we cannot ever fully achieve and certainly not retain. Yet it is something, which in the US alone $5billion is spent trying to enhance, recreate, and manufacture. Beauty is not just assisted by products it has become a product.
The truth of beauty is that the concept of beauty varies with each and every Individual.The Picture of beauty is the Picture that has been Painted in Our mind .Beauty has varied throughout the time,cultures and vast different Perception of the World.Remember the Viewpoint of a bunch of People cannot define you and your beauty.
Does Your Scar,Your Excessive Weight and the Colour of Your Skin make You less attractive:
You will be astonished to Know that the thing that has been worrying you over ages is not a real Concern at all.
Do You Know ?:
- Ethiopia’s Karos tribe,Women scars are considered Super attractive .They even pactice Self Scarring as a form of adorement.
- The zero figures are not adorable in all Cultures.Do you Know that Mauritious Moman are lauded for gaining weight to the extent that Parents send their young girls to camp where they are forced to eat 15,ooo calories a day to make them fat and desirable.
- Many Beauty Contest Winners are darker than Other Contestants.
Real Beauty Or a deformed Human being?
The reality of beauty is that What We See in magazines is purely fiction.Yes,You can go online and actually see the videos to what they do to the Pictures.The Pictures we see in magazines are that of Models.The Photographer take their snaps and then temper with the actual Image to make it picture perfect by elongating the legs,thinning the waist line,etc.Don’t you think the pictures of beautiful woman in the magazine is actually a deformed human being.When we are so exposed to these pictures,we start to think how we are supposed to look and it is no wonder that most people have a problem with their body Image.
The Pressure to Look beautiful and distinct from Others has always been the craze for Women of high Society .People even equate their happiness with their body Image and beauty,Especially theWomen.Beauty is fragile.If you like a Person just because of his/her’s Physical appearence,you can suffer a devasting breakup.Beauty doesn’t remain forever.But If we reframe the entire way of looking at thing to quranic view of the world,our mind would shift.We would ask ourself different questions.It wouldn’t be how do I look but what do I look like in the inside.Our sucess on life is based on the purification that we have in our life and not in the Colour of Our Skin .
Allah has created Everything with a beauty.Allah has created everything with proficiency and He created the human being in the best of forms.Every Creation of allah is beautiful.True beauty is not the Physical beauty but True beauty is in our words and in our deeds and action.
Being Beautiful and Attractive :
Being Attractive and Beautiful is recommended to all Muslims because Allah(swt) has created Everything with beauty and We should try to maintain the beauty we are blessed with. But finding fault in our Physical appearance and with something that we have no control is disliked. Someone once approached the Prophet (peace be upon him) and asked: “What if someone likes that his clothing and his shoes are beautiful?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: “Allah loves to see the affects of His grace upon His servant.” [Sunan al-Tirmidhī(2819)] When the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty,” this means that Allah blesses us for the beauty that we bring about through our good efforts. He loves beauty in us, just as He loves us to be possessed knowledge, generosity, clemency and purity.
Do You Need to be Sad because You think You are not beautiful enough?
Beauty is not the colour of our Skin .It is not the acessories and Makeups that make us beautiful but It is the Purity of Our heart,Our deeds and action that make us beautiful.It is beautifully said that beauty lies in the eyes of beholder.Everyone has their own perspectives and views about the world. What one person may see as beautiful, another may see just the opposite. This is really what it boils down to. Everyone takes their experiences in life and uses those experiences to explain and interpret the world around them.What we need to believe about Ourself is that “I am beautiful because I am a Creation of Allah (Swt) .”
And If Everything fails you to believe that you are beautiful then remember One thing -“Know you (all), that the life of this world is but play, amusement, and embellishment.” [Sūrah al-Hadīd: 20] “.May Allah give us the Insight to see the beauty in us and acknowledge the beauty of others that allah has created them with .
There are many People who search for some miraculous Products and even Duas that can turn them beautiful overnight . Remember my dear friends you don’t need to e more beautiful.You are indeed beautiful .If you want to read some duas ,there is a Dua that Prophet Muhammad SAW has taught us when looking into the mirror-
There are some other Duas that Prophet (ﷺ) used to supplicate (for inner beauty i.e ikhlas ) and We should also try to incorporate them into our life .They are –
“اللهم إني أسألك الهدى، والتقى، والعفاف،والغنى
“Allahumma inni as’alukal-huda, wat-tuqa, wal-‘afafa, wal-ghina
(O Allah! I beseech You for guidance, piety, chastity and contentment).”
Ref :Narrated by Abdullah bin Mas’ud (May Allah be pleased with him) (Sahih Muslim ),Riadh as Saliheen hadith 1468
One another beautiful supplications of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) was:
اللهم إني أسألك موجبات رحمتك، وعزائم مغفرتك، والسلامة من كل إثم، والغنيمة من كل بر، والفوز بالجنة، والنجاة من النار”.
“Allahumma inni as’aluka mujibati rahmatika, wa ‘aza’ima maghfiratika, was-salamata min kulli ithmin, wal-ghanimata min kulli birrin, wal-fawza bil- jannati, wannajata mina-nar (O Allah! I beg You for that which incites Your Mercy and the means of Your forgiveness, safety from every sin, the benefit from every good deed, success in attaining Jannah and deliverance from Fire).”
Narated by [Ibn Mas’ud (May Allah be pleased with him) Al-Hakim].
So Always thank Allah and Glorify him and do not look down on others .Pray to Allah to make him beautiful in imaan and taqwa and steadfast in Religion.The rest will follow automatically in sha Allah.