Why do you need to be dutiful to Parents ? Answer from Quran and Hadeeth.

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People wonder why kids have gotten so much more disrespectful these days—we see children and teens arguing with adults (or ignoring them outright), using foul language, copping an attitude, and not using manners or respecting those in authority. Sadly, this has become the norm for many children and teens. In my opinion, it really is a different world right now than the one we grew up in. Movies, music, video games and television all seem to glorify a disrespectful, angry, rude way of dealing with others. This means that in some ways we have to work harder as parents to teach our kids to be respectful. Added to this is the fact that parents are also busier than ever before, which makes it much harder to respond immediately to our kids.

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One good Way to inculcate good Manners in Children is to read to them the guidelines from Quran and Stories from Hadeeths which talks about good behaviour towards Parents.

Commands from Quran to be Dutiful to Parents :

Allah commands us to be dutiful to our Parents in Quran :

  1.  “And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents ” [al-Ahqaaf 46:15] 
  2. Behave with them in the world kindly” [Luqmaan 31:15]
  3. And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.”[ Surah Al-Isra [17:23]

 

Hadiths on being Dutiful to Parents :


1. Abu Amr ash-Shaybani said, “The owner of this house (and he pointed at the house of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ud) said, “I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, which action Allah loves best. He replied, ‘Prayer at its proper time.’ ‘Then what?’ I asked. He said, ‘Then kindness to parents.” I asked, ‘Then what?’ He replied, ‘Then jihad in the Way of Allah.'” He added, “He told me about these things. If I had asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more.”(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad  ,Book 1 Hadith 1)

2. Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent.”(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 2 ,Book 1 Hadith 2)

3. Ata ibn Yasar said that a man came to Ibn Abbas and said, “I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent?” He asked, “Is your mother alive?” “No,” he replied. He said, “repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can.”  So I went and asked Ibn `Abbas why he inquired about the man’s mother. He replied:

“I don’t know of a deed closer to Allah, Exalted and Majestic, other than dutifulness to the mother.“(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 4)

4. Abu Hurayra  RA reported: “A man came to the Prophet of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and asked, ‘What do you command me to do?’ He replied, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’ Then he asked him the same question again and he replied, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’ He repeated it yet again and the Prophet replied, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’ Then he put the question a fourth time and the Prophet said, ‘Be dutiful towards your father.'”(Sahih)

5. Sa’id ibn Abi Burda said, “I heard my father say that Ibn ‘Umar saw a Yamani man going around the House while carrying his mother on his back, saying, ‘I am your humble camel. If her mount is frightened, I am not frightened.’ Then he asked, ‘Ibn ‘Umar? Do you think that I have repaid her?’ He replied, ‘No, not even for a single groan.’ (sahih ,Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 11)

6. Abu Hurayra RA reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Disgrace! Disgrace! Disgrace!” They said, “Messenger of Allah, who?” He said, “The one who fails his parents or one of them when they are old will enter the Fire.”(Sahih : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 21)

7. Ibn Abbas mentioned the words of the Almighty, “When one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say ‘Ugh!’ to them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity. Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say:

‘Lord, show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small.” (17:23-24) He said, “This was abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: ‘It is not right for the Prophet and those who have iman to ask forgiveness for the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear to them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire.’ (9:113)”(grade Hassan)

8. Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man’s reviling his father is one of the major wrong actions in the sight of Allah Almighty.”(Ada al Mufrad )

9.Abu Hurayra saw two men and said to one of them, “Who is this man in relation to you?” He is my father,” he replied. He said, “Do not call him by his own name nor walk in front of him nor sit down before him.”(sahih hadeeth , Adab al Mufrad)

10. It was narrated from ‘Abdullah bin’ Amr that the Prophet said:

“The major sins are: associating others with Allah, disobeying parents, killing a souls (murder) and swearing a false oath knowingly.

As a Parent We should always make good Dua for our children and never curse them.

There is a hadeeth ,

Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “There are three supplications which are answered:
the supplication of the person who is wronged, the supplication of the traveller, and the supplication of a parent for his child.
And a Story ,

The story of the curse of Mother of Juraij,

Narrated Abu Huraira RA :

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “A woman called her son while he was in his hermitage and said, ‘O Juraij’ He said, ‘O Allah, my mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer (what shall I do)?’ She again said, ‘O Juraij!’ He said again, ‘O Allah ! My mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer (what shall I do)?’ She again said, ‘O Juraij’ He again said, ‘O Allah! My mother (is calling me) and (I am offering) my prayer. (What shall I do?)’ She said, ‘O Allah! Do not let Juraij die till he sees the faces of prostitutes.

A shepherdess used to come by his hermitage for grazing her sheep and she gave birth to a child. She was asked whose child that was, and she replied that it was from Juraij and that he had come out from his hermitage. Juraij said, ‘Where is that woman who claims that her child is from me?’ (When she was brought to him along with the child), Juraij asked the child, ‘O Babus, who is your father?’ The child replied, ‘The shepherd.’ ” (See Hadith No 662. Vol 3).

Allah cleared Juraij of the accusation of the Prostitute but the Curse of her mother was such that it came to effect .So always be careful.

So kids reading this article ,be Dutiful to your Parents and never make them Upset . 

And If you are a Parent, Make good Dua for your Children and teach them with love and patience.


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