Islam gave status to girls: Virtue of having a daughter.

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A daughter is the biggest blessing of Allah. During the days of ignorance, before Islam,People used to bury their daughter. Islam ended this practice. Allah has forbidden the burying of daughters.

This barbaric custom of burying the female infants alive had become widespread in ancient Arabia for different reasons. One reason was economic hardship because of which the people wanted to have fewer dependents so that they should not have to bear the burden of bringing up many children. Male offspring were brought up in the hope that they would later help in earning a living, but the female offspring were killed for the fear that they would have to be raised till they matured and then given away in marriage. Second, the widespread chaos because of which the male children were brought up in order to have more and more helpers and supporters; but daughters were killed because in tribal wars they had to be protected instead of being useful in any way for defense. Third, another aspect of the common chaos also was that when the hostile tribes raided each other and captured girls they would either keep them as slave-girls or sell them to others. For these reasons the practice that had become common in Arabia was that at childbirth a pit was kept dug out ready for use by the woman so that if a girl was born, she was immediately cast into it and buried alive. And if sometimes the mother was not inclined to act thus, or the people of the family disapproved of it, the father would raise her for some time half-heartedly, and then finding time would take her to the desert to be buried alive. This tyranny and hardheartedness was once described by a person before the Prophet (peace be upon him) himself.

According to a Hadith related in the first chapter of Sunan Darimi, a man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and related this incident of his pre-Islamic days of ignorance: I had a daughter who was much attached to me. When I called her, she would come running to me. One day I called her and took her out with me. On the way we came across a well. Holding her by the hand I pushed her into the well. Her last words that I heard were: Oh father, oh father! Hearing this, the Prophet (peace be upon him) wept and tears started falling from his eyes. One of those present on the occasion said: O man, you have grieved the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Do not stop him, let him question about what he feels so strongly now. Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked him to narrate his story once again. When he narrated it again the Prophet (peace be upon him) wept so much that his beard became wet with tears. Then he said to the man: Allah has forgiven what you did in the days of ignorance: now turn to Him in repentance.

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It is not correct to think that the people of Arabia had no feeling of the harshness of this hideous, inhuman act. Obviously, no society, however corrupted it may be, can be utterly devoid of the feeling that such tyrannical acts are evil. That is why the Quran has not dwelt upon the vileness of this act, but has only referred to it in awe-inspiring words to the effect:

وَاِذَا الۡمَوۡءٗدَةُ سُـئِلَتۡ‏ 

بِاَىِّ ذَنۡۢبٍ قُتِلَتۡ

A time will come when the girl who was buried alive, will be asked for what crime she was slain?(81:7)

The history of Arabia also shows that many people in the pre-Islamic days of ignorance had a feeling that the practice was vile and wicked. According to Tabarani, Sasaah bin Najiyah al-Mujashii, grandfather of the poet, Farazdaq, said to the Prophet (peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah, during the days of ignorance I have also done some good works, among which one is that I saved 360 girls from being buried alive: I gave two camels each as ransom to save their lives. Shall I get any reward for this? The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: Yes, there is a reward for you, and it is this that Allah has blessed you with Islam.

As a matter of fact, a great blessing of the blessings of Islam is that it not only did put an end to this inhuman practice in Arabia but even wiped out the concept that the birth of a daughter was in any way a calamity, which should be endured unwillingly. On the contrary, Islam taught that bringing up daughters, giving them good education and enabling them to become good housewives, is an act of great merit and virtue. The way the Prophet (peace be upon him) changed the common concept of the people in respect of girls can be judged from his many sayings which have been reported in the Hadith. As for example, we reproduce some of these below:

The person who is put to a test because of the birth of the daughters and then he treats them generously, they will become a means of rescue for him from Hell. (Bukhari, Muslim).

The one who brought up two girls till they attained their maturity, will appear along with me on the Resurrection Day. Saying this, the Prophet (peace be upon him) joined and raised his fingers. (Muslim).

The one who brought up three daughters, or sisters, taught them good manners and treated them with kindness until they became self-sufficient, Allah will make Paradise obligatory for him. A man asked: what about two, O Messenger (peace be upon him) of Allah? The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: the same for two. Ibn Abbas, the reporter of the Hadith, says: Had the people at that time asked in respect of one daughter, the Prophet (peace be upon him) would have also given the same reply about her. (Sharh as-Sunnh).

The one who has a daughter born to him and he does not bury her alive, nor keeps her in disgrace, nor prefers his son to her, Allah will admit him to Paradise. (Abu Daud).

The one who has three daughters born to him, and he is patient over them, and clothes them well according to his means, they will become a means of rescue for him from Hell. (Bukhari, Al-Adab al-Mufrad, Ibn Majah).

The Muslim who has two daughters and he looks after them well, they will lead him to Paradise. (Bukhari: Al- Adab al-Mufrad).

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to Suraqah bin Jusham: Should I tell you what is the greatest charity (or said: one of the greatest charities)? He said: Kindly do tell, O Messenger of Allah. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Your daughter who (after being divorced or widowed) returns to you and should have no other bread-winner. (Ibn Majah, Bukhari Al-Adab al-Mufrad).

This is the teaching which completely changed the viewpoint of the people about girls not only in Arabia but among all the nations of the world, which later become blessed with Islam.

Some hadith on virtues of daughters:

Sayyiduna Mughirah ra narrated that Allah’s Messenger sallalhu alaihe wa sallam said, ”surely, Allah has forbidden you to be disobedient to others, to bury daughters alive to be niggardly and to beg from others. And, He has declared a dislike for you to engage in vain talk, asking many questions and wasting property.”(mishkat 4915)


Sayyedina Anas radi allahu anhu narrated that Rasul Allah sallahu alaihe wa sallam said who raises two girls till they grow up (or they marry and live with their husbands), will come on the day of resurrection such that he and I shall be like this .. ” and he put his fingers joined together (to demonstrate).

Those who constrict their heart on the birth of girls do not realise that they are a blessing of Allah. Parents should not only provide them due provision and maintenance but also give them kind treatment beyond what is wajib (obligatory) on them. But, they most observe and abide by Shari’ah (divine law) in that treatment. The. reward accrues to parents if they continue to give them kind treatment till they become independent of their father on their
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Sayyiduna Ibn Abbas narrated that Allah’s messenger Sallalahu alaihe wa sallam said, “He who shares with an orphan his food and dink, Allah makes it binding without fails to admit him to paradise unless he commits a sin that is unforgivable. He who brings up three daughters, or . as many sisters, training them and treating them kindly till Allah makes ·them independent, Allah will assure him entry into paradise.” A man asked, “0 Messenger of Allah, or (if there are) only two?” He confirmed, ‘Or two, “So much so that if they had asked, “Or, one?” he would have said, “Or one!” “and” (he said) ”If Allah takes away his two dear. things; then paradise will.be assured t o him.’ It was asked, “0 Messenger of Allah, what are the two dear things?” He said, “His two eyes.”

Subhan Allah!

So love your daughters and take care.


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