A gift to Muslim Bride: A book that teaches her to start a new life with her husband
When A Girl is about to get married,she is nervous and apprehensive of her new life .In those moments, she needs someone who talk to her, comfort her, erase her fear and guide her to an establishment of a happy family. When I was given the proposal of marriage I was like,”Wait,I don’t know anything.How will I be a good wife ? “My mother then comforted me and gave me a book that had all the essential details I needed to know. She said , I am your mother. The things I cannot say you openly, you will find it in this book.
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I learned that the golden rule to keep in mind are :-
1)Your Husband is your door to Paradise
There are in numerous hadeeth that states that a Husband is he door to Paradise for a woman.
1)Ahmad (19025) and al-Haakim narrated from al-Husayn ibn Muhsin that his paternal aunt came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) for something and he dealt with her need, then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.”
He said: “How are you with him?” She said, “I do not neglect any of his rights except those I am unable to fulfill.” He said: “Look at how you are with him, for he is your paradise and your hell” – i.e., he is the cause of you entering Paradise if you fulfil his rights and the cause of your entering Hell if you fall short in that.
Al-Mundhiri classed the isnaad of this hadeeth as jayyid in al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb; it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, no. 1933.
2)Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 660.
2)Your Husband deserves to be Respected.
A Husband deserves to be respected. I remember a hadeeth,
Ibn Maajah (1853) narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Abi Awfa said: When Mu’aadh came from Syria, he prostrated to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said, “What is this, O Mu’aadh?” He said, I went to Syria and saw them prostrating to their archbishops and patriarchs, and I wanted to do that for you.
The Messenger of Allaah (S) said, “Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allaah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman can fulfil her duty towards Allaah until she fulfils her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah.
A lesson from the book: A Gift to Muslim Bride
If every girl remembers this few hadeeths,she would be In sha Allah able to suppress a little of her ego,a little of her nafs and a little of her desire but in return get abundant of thawab, abundant of love and abundant mercy from Allah swt,In sha Allah.
If you too would like to derive benefit from this book ,consider reading this book .It is “A Gift to Muslim Bride ” by
A Gift to Muslim Bride
This book, truthfully, is an ideal gift to Muslim sisters (brides), as this book mainly deals with the concerned affairs of newly married life according to the Qur’an and Sunnah; touching upon topics like the excellence of a righteous wife, her attributes and duties to her husband, How to live amicably with in-laws avoiding all domestic disputes and How to harmonise with husband’s sentiments and preferences, to capture his heart and inclusive attention. etc.
A Gift for a Muslim Bride also contains stories of some exemplary women, advises and other precious parting advices as a light of guidance. By practising them, a home can become a garden of Jannah. This book should be read in sequence cover to cover and pass the advises on to other Muslim sisters.
This book cites the sterling examples of six women during the time of Rasulullaah SAW. The lessons that this book teaches include:
- Obeying the husband
- True love for the husband Honouring and serving the husband
- Being loyal towards the husband
- Making one’s husband a Muslim or a pious person Qualities of a good wife
- How to remain the beloved of one’s husband Bad habits of women and ways of losing them
- How to live in harmony with one’s in-laws
- The rights that women owe to their husbands
- Advice for the married couple Formulas to avoid disputes between a bride and her husband, mother-in-law and sisters-in-law, which often lead to premature separations and bitter feelings between entire families
Besides the above there are many other subjects and solutions discussed. By practising the teachings of this book, a home can become a garden of Jannah and means of attaining success in this world and in the Aakhirah (Hereafter).
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This Book is in English and has 462 Page.The binding is very good and has an attractive cover.You can get it online at only 7$
Thanks for reviewing this book. I feel like it was pretty centered on how a woman must worship her husband, and I don’t think that’s appropriate. I feel like it works both ways but it is also good advice as per the hadith.
Thanks for sharing this book review, this would have been a very good book to have when I first got married
Not come across this book before. Thanks for sharing, looks like it may be a useful book.
Thanks for the review. I think I will add this book as a gift to all my friends getting married. And of course for myself as well.
Its very important for men & women to get premarital counseling/classes in order to make things easy and clarify doubts.
Thanks for sharing sis! Will need this in future in Sha Allah!
Must read for those getting married!
I think I read this before a few years prior to getting married. Whilst I did not agree with all the points the author made (i.e in general not any hadith related ones), I think you’ve highlighted some good points from the book.
Jazak Allah Khayr